Amazing Graduation Speech: The ABC’s of Life

My dearest I was going to share this video on my blog “Black Women Have It Going On” but the message was too powerful not to share with each of you.  This is a young man that is indeed well spoken and well read.  My hat is off to him!  His enthusiasm about life is truly contagious!  And I am delighted for his parents because of their son’s academic achievements.  But this is not to say I am not proud of each of you.

I just wanted to send you a note of inspiration and to remind you that I love you.

Enjoy!  And I pray you learn something from this outstanding graduation speech.

Love,
Mom

I Would Love Black Daughter-In-Laws . . .

Photo Taken By:  A. A. Harrison

Photo Taken By: A. A. Harrison

But I do not necessarily have to have them.

The girl in the photo is not your bother’s girl-friend.  She’s was just a teammate.

Last week a white man created a website searching for conditional love.  On his site he listed all these requirements.  Hey to each his own!  Well any-who-how, the below is what he wrote about the color of women he is and is not seeking:

I will not date a Black girl.  I don’t care if she looks like Halle Berry, I will not ever date a Black girl.

However, I will date any other race, Hispanic, Mexican, Spanish, Russian, Italian, French, European, White, whatever, anything except Black.

And according to Huffington Post this same guy stated earlier on his site that :  ‘I will not date a Black girl. I don’t care if she looks like Halle Berry, I will not ever date a Black girl. And, I do not believe that Whites & Blacks should mix races sexually and have kids together. I think it’s ok for Whites & Hispanics. But not Blacks. I would NEVER, EVER, EVER date a woman if I found out she had EVER been sexually active with a Black man.’

Wow!  Right!  I’m sure you my son’s are wondering why am I writing to each of you about this man.  If I raised you correctly I’m hoping each of you are saying to self “Mom who cares.”

Honestly son’s I don’t care about how this man feels about dating black women.  I don’t even care about his views on who should and should not procreate.  The only thing this man did for my thinking is to make me question as your mom how did I raise my son to feel about dating outside of our black race.  And that’s it!

I feel this man is a sad man who was never put on a humane path.  It is clear he has never lived in an environment of unconditional love.  Therefore, the love he finds will be shallow as his relationship desires.  Other words, this poor guy will never find true love, unconditional love, and love that makes a man feel like a man and not some type of lap-dog.

As your mom this is what I want for you:  I want you to acknowledge something greater than the minute powers of man controls the Universe.  I want you to respect that something by acknowledging you and I call this mighty force God.  I want you to be happy.  I want you to be men with backbones and not mouse’s with fragile spines.  I want you to laugh more than you privately cry.  I want you to live financial fruitful lives.  I want you to live in the best neighborhoods.  I want you to live each day as if it was your last.  I want you to vacation often as time and monies permit.  I want to you to make better choices for your lives than I did for mines in every stage of life.  I want you to marry women of substance.  I want you to have children (should you want them).   I want you to unconditionally love those children.  I want you to be a better parent than I.  I want you to age gracefully.  But out of all the things I listed that I wish for you, the one thing I want most is for you to be happy.

Therefore, if you seek happiness you will find the perfect mate for you, as you realize color should not be the determining factor for finding unconditional love.  As your mom, that is not void of understanding the human want to be intimately loved by another, I can love any woman you choose.

Hugs and kisses,
Mom

P.S.  I forgot to write something very important.  Please don’t publicly make yourselves look foolish among the social network.  I do want people to think I did raise you to have some dignity.  –Mom

 

Saturday’s Message From Mom: Learning What You Have Lived

Photo by Vision Photography Studio

Photo by Vision Photography Studio

My loves, something was expressed today and the actions of others made me think of my once bad parental skills.  Though those days are so far removed from me I can remember them as if they had happened today.  Usually people write I remember such and such as if it happened yesterday.  But I chose to write as if it happened today because the experiences dealt with the most precious people in my world.  You!

Never does a day go by when I don’t ask God to help me be a better mom.  Never does a day go by when I don’t pray that God will guide and protect you on your life journeys.

But as a once young mom I stumbled upon the below poem by Dorothy Law Nolte, PhD.  The poem was an instant hit with me.   It helped me to accept the failures of my parents.  It helped me to forgive them by understanding they were and are human.  And in turn I was able to see the beauty in parenting each of you as you embarked upon life.  The poem taught me I was not the model mom and as a result there would be a chance you would not be the model children; but I could parent each of you without destroying the essence of your being because I was older and wiser.

Happy reading.

Love
Mom

Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

 

So You Have Fallen Down . . . Remember

It’s hard to beat a person that never gives up.  ~Babe Ruth

Photo Taken By:  A.A. Harrison

Photo Taken By: A.A. Harrison

Perhaps your nose is bloody.  Then again it could be your chin was peeled.  And maybe you could have scuffed your elbow(s).  Or you possibly removed some skin from your knee(s).  But, now, you must find the strength to pick yourself up, dust yourself off in the midst of pain and the feeling of defeat!

Never stay down!  Because, if you stay down, people will come along and walk on you and or over you.  Remember that!

So get up!  Stop your nose from metaphorically bleeding, put a bandage on your metaphorically wounded chin, elbow(s) and knee(s) and keep striving for your dreams.

Love,
Mom