Amazing Graduation Speech: The ABC’s of Life

My dearest I was going to share this video on my blog “Black Women Have It Going On” but the message was too powerful not to share with each of you.  This is a young man that is indeed well spoken and well read.  My hat is off to him!  His enthusiasm about life is truly contagious!  And I am delighted for his parents because of their son’s academic achievements.  But this is not to say I am not proud of each of you.

I just wanted to send you a note of inspiration and to remind you that I love you.

Enjoy!  And I pray you learn something from this outstanding graduation speech.

Love,
Mom

I Would Love Black Daughter-In-Laws . . .

Photo Taken By:  A. A. Harrison

Photo Taken By: A. A. Harrison

But I do not necessarily have to have them.

The girl in the photo is not your bother’s girl-friend.  She’s was just a teammate.

Last week a white man created a website searching for conditional love.  On his site he listed all these requirements.  Hey to each his own!  Well any-who-how, the below is what he wrote about the color of women he is and is not seeking:

I will not date a Black girl.  I don’t care if she looks like Halle Berry, I will not ever date a Black girl.

However, I will date any other race, Hispanic, Mexican, Spanish, Russian, Italian, French, European, White, whatever, anything except Black.

And according to Huffington Post this same guy stated earlier on his site that :  ‘I will not date a Black girl. I don’t care if she looks like Halle Berry, I will not ever date a Black girl. And, I do not believe that Whites & Blacks should mix races sexually and have kids together. I think it’s ok for Whites & Hispanics. But not Blacks. I would NEVER, EVER, EVER date a woman if I found out she had EVER been sexually active with a Black man.’

Wow!  Right!  I’m sure you my son’s are wondering why am I writing to each of you about this man.  If I raised you correctly I’m hoping each of you are saying to self “Mom who cares.”

Honestly son’s I don’t care about how this man feels about dating black women.  I don’t even care about his views on who should and should not procreate.  The only thing this man did for my thinking is to make me question as your mom how did I raise my son to feel about dating outside of our black race.  And that’s it!

I feel this man is a sad man who was never put on a humane path.  It is clear he has never lived in an environment of unconditional love.  Therefore, the love he finds will be shallow as his relationship desires.  Other words, this poor guy will never find true love, unconditional love, and love that makes a man feel like a man and not some type of lap-dog.

As your mom this is what I want for you:  I want you to acknowledge something greater than the minute powers of man controls the Universe.  I want you to respect that something by acknowledging you and I call this mighty force God.  I want you to be happy.  I want you to be men with backbones and not mouse’s with fragile spines.  I want you to laugh more than you privately cry.  I want you to live financial fruitful lives.  I want you to live in the best neighborhoods.  I want you to live each day as if it was your last.  I want you to vacation often as time and monies permit.  I want to you to make better choices for your lives than I did for mines in every stage of life.  I want you to marry women of substance.  I want you to have children (should you want them).   I want you to unconditionally love those children.  I want you to be a better parent than I.  I want you to age gracefully.  But out of all the things I listed that I wish for you, the one thing I want most is for you to be happy.

Therefore, if you seek happiness you will find the perfect mate for you, as you realize color should not be the determining factor for finding unconditional love.  As your mom, that is not void of understanding the human want to be intimately loved by another, I can love any woman you choose.

Hugs and kisses,
Mom

P.S.  I forgot to write something very important.  Please don’t publicly make yourselves look foolish among the social network.  I do want people to think I did raise you to have some dignity.  –Mom

 

So You Have Fallen Down . . . Remember

It’s hard to beat a person that never gives up.  ~Babe Ruth

Photo Taken By:  A.A. Harrison

Photo Taken By: A.A. Harrison

Perhaps your nose is bloody.  Then again it could be your chin was peeled.  And maybe you could have scuffed your elbow(s).  Or you possibly removed some skin from your knee(s).  But, now, you must find the strength to pick yourself up, dust yourself off in the midst of pain and the feeling of defeat!

Never stay down!  Because, if you stay down, people will come along and walk on you and or over you.  Remember that!

So get up!  Stop your nose from metaphorically bleeding, put a bandage on your metaphorically wounded chin, elbow(s) and knee(s) and keep striving for your dreams.

Love,
Mom

When You Hunger For Success

Nothing was more upsetting than the day I realized I had to cut the umbilical cord and allow another one of my son’s to venture into the world unprepared for life.  As your mom that was the saddest day for me!  I fought a good fight!  But the natural instinct to be a man won over the wisdom of a loving mother that desired successful son’s.

With a downcast heart I’m using this moment to write about a recent conversation I had with one of you.  I am sadden from hearing the news that one of my son’s has chosen to become a petal blowing in the wind.

I realize the methodical move of your brother to surface is a cry for help.  However, at this time I must sit back and allow his choices, his consequences, and his failures to teach him what I could not.

I have taken him as far as my love, my knowledge, and my life experiences could carry us both as parent to child.  Now he must learn what it truly means to be hungry for success if he plans on making something of his life.

Love,
Mom