Amazing Graduation Speech: The ABC’s of Life

My dearest I was going to share this video on my blog “Black Women Have It Going On” but the message was too powerful not to share with each of you.  This is a young man that is indeed well spoken and well read.  My hat is off to him!  His enthusiasm about life is truly contagious!  And I am delighted for his parents because of their son’s academic achievements.  But this is not to say I am not proud of each of you.

I just wanted to send you a note of inspiration and to remind you that I love you.

Enjoy!  And I pray you learn something from this outstanding graduation speech.

Love,
Mom

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Saturday’s Message From Mom: Learning What You Have Lived

Photo by Vision Photography Studio

Photo by Vision Photography Studio

My loves, something was expressed today and the actions of others made me think of my once bad parental skills.  Though those days are so far removed from me I can remember them as if they had happened today.  Usually people write I remember such and such as if it happened yesterday.  But I chose to write as if it happened today because the experiences dealt with the most precious people in my world.  You!

Never does a day go by when I don’t ask God to help me be a better mom.  Never does a day go by when I don’t pray that God will guide and protect you on your life journeys.

But as a once young mom I stumbled upon the below poem by Dorothy Law Nolte, PhD.  The poem was an instant hit with me.   It helped me to accept the failures of my parents.  It helped me to forgive them by understanding they were and are human.  And in turn I was able to see the beauty in parenting each of you as you embarked upon life.  The poem taught me I was not the model mom and as a result there would be a chance you would not be the model children; but I could parent each of you without destroying the essence of your being because I was older and wiser.

Happy reading.

Love
Mom

Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

 

I Can Teach You How to Think But I Can’t Tell You What to Think

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. ~Philippians 4:8

find your way . . .It has been more than a decade since I took a course titled “Critical Thinking.”  Strangely during this time I questioned my ability to reason with sound logic.  My soul longed for character building substance that denoted I was a person of excellence; but I was a young woman making foolish decisions.  Sadly, I had no one to teach me how to think.  Instead I had people telling me what to think.

Their thoughts were not my thoughts.  Because of my youth their thoughts only confused me as a young woman and hindered my search for truths that characterized my existence.  As a result I had sex too young, got pregnant too young, married too young, divorced too soon, worked dead-end jobs, cultivated and nurtured a destructive disposition as I made myself a sacrificial lamb.

Looking back over my life I realize had I been taught to think for myself I would have made the following choices:  I would have moved to Europe.  I would have gone to school and pursued my degree in fashion design.  I would have worked hard to market my creations.  I would have made a name for myself.  I would have made a positive mark in the world by pushing the envelope when it came to inspiring women to discover their personal style.

So with that written, I must write had I been taught to think for myself I could have become my prima donna.  I could have had less sleepless nights over financial matters had I thought for myself.  I could have given each of you better educations had I thought for myself.  I could have brought the family home in a more affluent neighborhood had I thought for myself.  I could have taken us on mini and big vacations had I thought for myself.  I could have done a lot had I thought for myself.  Instead, I was isolated from enjoying life because I had been taught my thoughts were not my own!

My personal experience has become a natural maternal instinct to teach you to think for yourselves.

My dear son’s I don’t want you to place prominence on your color nor your gender.  But who you are in essence should always be spiritually a badge of honor.  Always be aware of your thoughts.  Always talk less.  Always listen intently.  Always notice who is doing what (good or bad).  Always notice who makes you feel good about you being you.  Always notice who makes you feel bad about you being you.  Always notice the person that follows the natural laws of  humanity and the laws of man and always notice who breaks these laws.  But most importantly always protect you mentally and spiritually.  You only get to live a wonderful life once so live it in grand style!

Love:  Mom