Amazing Graduation Speech: The ABC’s of Life

My dearest I was going to share this video on my blog “Black Women Have It Going On” but the message was too powerful not to share with each of you.  This is a young man that is indeed well spoken and well read.  My hat is off to him!  His enthusiasm about life is truly contagious!  And I am delighted for his parents because of their son’s academic achievements.  But this is not to say I am not proud of each of you.

I just wanted to send you a note of inspiration and to remind you that I love you.

Enjoy!  And I pray you learn something from this outstanding graduation speech.



I Would Love Black Daughter-In-Laws . . .

Photo Taken By:  A. A. Harrison

Photo Taken By: A. A. Harrison

But I do not necessarily have to have them.

The girl in the photo is not your bother’s girl-friend.  She’s was just a teammate.

Last week a white man created a website searching for conditional love.  On his site he listed all these requirements.  Hey to each his own!  Well any-who-how, the below is what he wrote about the color of women he is and is not seeking:

I will not date a Black girl.  I don’t care if she looks like Halle Berry, I will not ever date a Black girl.

However, I will date any other race, Hispanic, Mexican, Spanish, Russian, Italian, French, European, White, whatever, anything except Black.

And according to Huffington Post this same guy stated earlier on his site that :  ‘I will not date a Black girl. I don’t care if she looks like Halle Berry, I will not ever date a Black girl. And, I do not believe that Whites & Blacks should mix races sexually and have kids together. I think it’s ok for Whites & Hispanics. But not Blacks. I would NEVER, EVER, EVER date a woman if I found out she had EVER been sexually active with a Black man.’

Wow!  Right!  I’m sure you my son’s are wondering why am I writing to each of you about this man.  If I raised you correctly I’m hoping each of you are saying to self “Mom who cares.”

Honestly son’s I don’t care about how this man feels about dating black women.  I don’t even care about his views on who should and should not procreate.  The only thing this man did for my thinking is to make me question as your mom how did I raise my son to feel about dating outside of our black race.  And that’s it!

I feel this man is a sad man who was never put on a humane path.  It is clear he has never lived in an environment of unconditional love.  Therefore, the love he finds will be shallow as his relationship desires.  Other words, this poor guy will never find true love, unconditional love, and love that makes a man feel like a man and not some type of lap-dog.

As your mom this is what I want for you:  I want you to acknowledge something greater than the minute powers of man controls the Universe.  I want you to respect that something by acknowledging you and I call this mighty force God.  I want you to be happy.  I want you to be men with backbones and not mouse’s with fragile spines.  I want you to laugh more than you privately cry.  I want you to live financial fruitful lives.  I want you to live in the best neighborhoods.  I want you to live each day as if it was your last.  I want you to vacation often as time and monies permit.  I want to you to make better choices for your lives than I did for mines in every stage of life.  I want you to marry women of substance.  I want you to have children (should you want them).   I want you to unconditionally love those children.  I want you to be a better parent than I.  I want you to age gracefully.  But out of all the things I listed that I wish for you, the one thing I want most is for you to be happy.

Therefore, if you seek happiness you will find the perfect mate for you, as you realize color should not be the determining factor for finding unconditional love.  As your mom, that is not void of understanding the human want to be intimately loved by another, I can love any woman you choose.

Hugs and kisses,

P.S.  I forgot to write something very important.  Please don’t publicly make yourselves look foolish among the social network.  I do want people to think I did raise you to have some dignity.  –Mom


So You Have Fallen Down . . . Remember

It’s hard to beat a person that never gives up.  ~Babe Ruth

Photo Taken By:  A.A. Harrison

Photo Taken By: A.A. Harrison

Perhaps your nose is bloody.  Then again it could be your chin was peeled.  And maybe you could have scuffed your elbow(s).  Or you possibly removed some skin from your knee(s).  But, now, you must find the strength to pick yourself up, dust yourself off in the midst of pain and the feeling of defeat!

Never stay down!  Because, if you stay down, people will come along and walk on you and or over you.  Remember that!

So get up!  Stop your nose from metaphorically bleeding, put a bandage on your metaphorically wounded chin, elbow(s) and knee(s) and keep striving for your dreams.


Intimacy Has Boundaries and Remember That!

Artist:  Tess Lee MillerDearest Sons:

Today I was watching “Toddlers and Tiaras.”  During a commercial break the television station was showing previews for an Amish reality show I use to watch.  The first time the commercial aired I heard the host say something to this affect:  He was upset with you because you slept with him.  Because I was slightly preoccupied with something other than watching the commercial I didn’t get to see who the host was referring to; therefore, I was wondering who the “him” was that committed the offense!  Then after the host disclosed the cheating woman’s infidelity, the wife puts her head in her hands and displays remorse by crying.  As my cousin always says, “There’s a dead cat on the line.”   

Now that I am considered a seasoned woman because of my age, family position and life experiences, I must write I don’t know if I would trust the tears of a woman that has moral issues when it comes to relationship boundaries.  Well any-who-how . . .     

To reel-in viewers for next Sunday’s show the television station aired the commercial again!  This time I was determined to see the face of the person who slept with the married woman.  Drum roll please!    

And . . . The other man was her husband’s brother!  What the hell!  Oh!  My!  God!  

It is clear to see from what took place the cheating wife and her husband’s double-crossing brother has boundary issues!  It is also clear to see from the previews that the husband took his unfaithful wife back.  Truly the husband suffers from self-esteem issues!  [I am shaking my head at the whole mess!]  

Character is higher than intellect.  A great soul will be strong to live as well as think.  ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

This is my message to you my dear son’s . . .

Women are a dime a dozen when it comes to intimacy.  My words are not written to cheapen women for I am a woman.  But I am writing to remind you that you are brothers bound together by blood, my blood.  There is no woman or man born that should cause you to betray, disrespect, or be unkind in deeds to one another.  You are brothers!  Intimacy has boundaries!  Remember that!