Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. ~Philippians 4:8
It has been more than a decade since I took a course titled “Critical Thinking.” Strangely during this time I questioned my ability to reason with sound logic. My soul longed for character building substance that denoted I was a person of excellence; but I was a young woman making foolish decisions. Sadly, I had no one to teach me how to think. Instead I had people telling me what to think.
Their thoughts were not my thoughts. Because of my youth their thoughts only confused me as a young woman and hindered my search for truths that characterized my existence. As a result I had sex too young, got pregnant too young, married too young, divorced too soon, worked dead-end jobs, cultivated and nurtured a destructive disposition as I made myself a sacrificial lamb.
Looking back over my life I realize had I been taught to think for myself I would have made the following choices: I would have moved to Europe. I would have gone to school and pursued my degree in fashion design. I would have worked hard to market my creations. I would have made a name for myself. I would have made a positive mark in the world by pushing the envelope when it came to inspiring women to discover their personal style.
So with that written, I must write had I been taught to think for myself I could have become my prima donna. I could have had less sleepless nights over financial matters had I thought for myself. I could have given each of you better educations had I thought for myself. I could have brought the family home in a more affluent neighborhood had I thought for myself. I could have taken us on mini and big vacations had I thought for myself. I could have done a lot had I thought for myself. Instead, I was isolated from enjoying life because I had been taught my thoughts were not my own!
My personal experience has become a natural maternal instinct to teach you to think for yourselves.
My dear son’s I don’t want you to place prominence on your color nor your gender. But who you are in essence should always be spiritually a badge of honor. Always be aware of your thoughts. Always talk less. Always listen intently. Always notice who is doing what (good or bad). Always notice who makes you feel good about you being you. Always notice who makes you feel bad about you being you. Always notice the person that follows the natural laws of humanity and the laws of man and always notice who breaks these laws. But most importantly always protect you mentally and spiritually. You only get to live a wonderful life once so live it in grand style!